Introducing our new Hear. You. series, Things Women Don't Say Out Loud - an exploration of the thoughts, feelings and experiences women often carry quietly. We begin with the psychology of self-silencing and why so many of us learn to edit what we're really feeling in order to appear capable, grateful or simply fine.

You finally have an hour to yourself. No one urgently needs you. There are no appointments to attend, messages that cannot wait or immediate problems to solve. And yet, instead of relaxing, you notice the familiar pull of guilt.

Why does putting yourself first feel so uncomfortable? Explore the psychology behind people-pleasing, guilt, invisible emotional labour and boundaries.